Married To The Business

The Pioneer & The Settler

You are the pioneer. The entrepreneur. The explorer. The risk-taker. But you find yourself married to, or in business with, a settler. A homesteader. A risk-avoider.

In this episode, our very special guest is going to blow your mind with her insights about how to harmonize these polar opposites, and prove that they are better together than apart.

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Spiritual Foundations

Our verse this week is from Psalm 18:22…“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.”

That has certainly been the case with me as you’ll discover later in this episode.

Tip of the Week

Word of Warning: My tip this week won’t work for people who are paranoid about being tracked by their phone.

I have fallen in love with an app called Life Cycle.

This app automatically tracks your life and presents it to you in a way that lets you see what you’re doing with your time.

If you’re looking to make changes about the ways you spend your time, this may just be the app for you.

Feature Presentation: “Married To The Business: The Pioneer and the Settler”

In this episode I’m having a conversation with a very wise woman…my wife Lynn. She is the most authentic and honest person I know, and she has a totally contagious laugh.

Here are some snippets from our conversation:

  • The origin of the Pioneer and the Settler (4:35)
  • Not for women only (5:05)
  • Wagons Ho! (5:28)
  • The shooting gallery (6:01)
  • On a gravy train with biscuit wheels (6:26)
  • An unethical dilemma (7:44)
  • What a freak-out feels like (8:04)
  • Be the conductor of your own train (8:45)
  • Asking the awkward question (9:44)
  • Genesis and the kitchen table (11:18)
  • The recipe for a great husband and father (12:05)
  • Ray gets busted (13:03)
  • The dilemma of letting go (13:29)
  • Clash of the Titans (15:05)
  • The value of a Safe Space (15:28)
  • Doing the brave thing (16:18)
  • Same song…48th verse (17:09)
  • Know the other person’s heart (18:15)
  • How to stay married (19:17)
  • The foundation of faith (21:40)
  • What to say to your younger self (23:05)
  • Don’t sweat the small stuff (24:03)
  • Lynn’s message to the younger Ray (24:24)
  • The sexy snort (25:12)
  • Escaping the performance trap (25:45)
  • Proper care and feeding of Settlers (26:04)
  • Lynn drops a Truth Bomb (26:28)
  • The 3-Sentence Rule (27:48)
  • Mansplaining (29:50)
  • Essential meaningful purpose (30:22)
  • Stay in your lane (31:12)
  • Rapid fire bonus questions (33:36)
  • Has the journey been worth it? (35:13)

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  • Linore Burkard

    Great show. Sweet and fun. And nice to meet your wife!

  • This was awesome, Ray!!! I just love your wife’s humor and transparency. LOVED listening to you two! The “sexy snore” cracked me up!!!!
    Here at home we are the opposite. I’m the entrepreneur and my husband is somehow between a settler and an entrepreneur. He backs me up in my visions for blogging and business but when it comes to investing money he holds me back quite often.
    Listening to your wife made me understand my husband’s perspective of things better. He is way more cautious than I am. I’m a visionary, very passionate and a risk-taker, but being married to someone who is not helps to keep the balance and prevent me from overspending or investing money where I shouldn’t.