People are drawn to those who don’t need anyone to be drawn to them. We seekĀ that which we lack. What are some things that attract other people to us? Well, you can forget the external stuff; while you car, house or title might command attention, those things won’t create lasting attraction. So what will?
- Peacefulness
- Confidence
- Kindness
- Generosity (be clear: it’s not about the stuff, it’s about the giving)
- Hospitality
- Forgiveness
- Wisdom
So if you want to become utterly irresistible, you do it by focusing on — and growing — those qualities listed above.
Giving new meaning to the aphorism, “Become the change you seek in the world.”




The real virtues do create more attraction than ego-driven boasting and status symbols. Especially one-on-one, the person who genuinely cares and wants to serve is valued for what he or she is at least as much as what he or she has to offer in the way of specific skills.
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