There’s a little bromide that is used when someone is about to fail, usually in a spectacular fashion. Some well-meaning but misguided soul (often the soon-to-be-failure themselves) will utter the deadly incantation: “Well, the best you can do is all you can do.”
Here that screeching sound? It the sound of the brakes on whatever endeavor might be in process. The violent head-on collision of a bad attitude obliterating a difficult (but worthy) goal.
The fact is, “the best you can do” and “all you can do” are usually uttered when we believe we’re about to fail, and…
“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” This is what our parents told us when we were young, probably crying because someone said something mean to us. We knew even then this business about words never hurting us was a lie.
We knew it because we were hurting, and it was the words that hurt.
Some of our deepest psycho-spiritual needs are to feel connected to others, loved, respected, valued, and safe. Words can either create those feelings, or completely destroy them (and bring their opposites). Words can hurt more than a fist.
Some of the things we casually say to one another are unthinkably cruel, and thoughtlessly destructive. The Great Storyteller says in his book of wisdom that the “power of life and death is in the tongue.”
Every time you speak, you empower something. When you speak today, to others or to yourself, which will it be? Will you empower good or evil? Life or death?
Words empower either good or evil; there is no neutral. Wield them carefully.
We use the word “friend” too lightly, and we do so at our peril. My message today is that true friendship is rare and important, while false friendship is common and dangerous. Let me tell you a story…
“Nature abhors a vacuum.” Aristotle is generally credited with this saying. While it may or may not be true in physics (there is some debate, and that is not the subject of this post), it is most definitely true of humans.
Human beings have a low tolerance for “incompletes”. That’s why serial television shows are so successful. Each episode ends by opening up a mystery to be solved only by watching the next episode.
“You can’t have a successful business and a balanced life. You have to choose.”
“You’re not pretty enough.”
“Life is not Disneyland. You can’t have fun all the time.”
“You’re not smart enough.”
“Work is not supposed to be fun.”
“You’re too sick.”
“You’re just a sinner in the hands of an angry God.”
“The only way to make a fortune is by working hard.”
“You’re too young.”
“Sometimes bad things happen and you just can’t find any good in it. It doesn’t mean anything. It is what it is.”
“God doesn’t want you to be rich.”
“You’re too old.”
“You can’t trust anyone.”
“Your best days are behind you.”
…and feel free insert your go-to limiting belief here, if I’ve missed it.
Question: who told you this junk?
Who told you?
And why are you still listening to them?