“You can’t have a successful business and a balanced life. You have to choose.”
“You’re not pretty enough.”
“Life is not Disneyland. You can’t have fun all the time.”
“You’re not smart enough.”
“Work is not supposed to be fun.”
“You’re too sick.”
“You’re just a sinner in the hands of an angry God.”
“The only way to make a fortune is by working hard.”
“You’re too young.”
“Sometimes bad things happen and you just can’t find any good in it. It doesn’t mean anything. It is what it is.”
“God doesn’t want you to be rich.”
“You’re too old.”
“You can’t trust anyone.”
“Your best days are behind you.”
…and feel free insert your go-to limiting belief here, if I’ve missed it.
Question: who told you this junk?
Who told you?
And why are you still listening to them?
We hide. We’re good at it. One of our best tricks is hiding from ourselves the ways in which we hide.
Once you are on to that game, however, it’s pretty easy to uncover. Just ask yourself, “In what ways and my hiding?”
I’ve been on a personal health quest over the last few months, proactively taking control of what I’m eating and the quality and frequency of the physical exercise I get. The results are clear. I’ve lost over 20 pounds, had to buy a new belt, and had to buy some new clothes. I have a lot more progress to make, but it’s been a very encouraging, if somewhat challenging experience.
I’ve tried to take control of my health in the past, and frankly didn’t have a great deal of success, at least not long-term. This time, I decided to try something different: I have enlisted an accountability partner that I absolutely don’t want to disappoint. That accountability partner is my son, Sean Edwards.
Yes, there is chaos in the marketplace. The economy can be described as turbulent. But that doesn’t matter.
There is no reason for you, my entrepreneurial friend, to fear the storm. Bedrock principles will keep you on course. Here are seven keys to thriving even in a turbulent economy…
- Faith. You will receive what you believe. Carefully guard where you are placing your faith. It makes a difference.
- Foundations. Most people crumble when their core values are challenged-because they never made those values a conscious decision. Most of us simply inherit our values and beliefs from our family and friends. Make yours a choice. Don’t just know what you believe, know why you believe it.
- Family. After your connection to your Creator, the most important link to your ultimate success is your family. Even if you have no family, as it is traditionally understood.
- Friends. How you relate to friends-even how you define that word-is of vital importance to how effective you will be in the world. Especially in the world of business.
- Focus. What you focus on expands. If your constant focus is on the negativity and the chaos of the environment around you, expect to see more of the same. Take responsibility for what goes on inside your head.
- Finances. Business is a game won (or lost) by the numbers. The rules are simple: make money, save money, spend as little as possible.
- Fun. Make it a goal to be more joyful than all of your companions. Joy is magnetic, and draws people to you. It has the added benefit of drawing cheerful people to you, helping eliminate the “Eeyore Factor” from your life.
Years ago I took a job in a large radio market, as the Program Director of the most successful radio station in the city. In less than three weeks, I knew the job was a mistake.
The business was dysfunctional, because the person who hired me was mentally ill. He was a psychological maelstrom, and inexorably pulled everyone and everything around him into the battles that raged inside his own besieged mind. He was both hated and feared by his staff.
Every “mess” in your life creates additional stress.
I define a “mess” as any incomplete task, obligation, or other unresolved commitment.
Think of each “mess” as a program running on your computer.
As you know, if you run too many programs at once on your computer (even tiny ones), eventually the computer slows down. It begins to perform at less than optimum levels.
Sometimes it even crashes.
Your brain works the same way. Keep too many programs open simultaneously, and at best your mind slows down. You become forgetful, edgy, irritable.
At worst, you “crash”.
The problem with goals is not achieving them.
What if you could change that? What if you could achieve more of the goals you set, and at the same time expand your ability to achieve tougher ones in the future?
Here’s the secret: set goals at every level.
One of the worst mistakes we can make as entrepreneurs is allowing our commitment to our business to undermine our commitment to our family.
As entrepreneurs we do things that others aren’t necessarily willing to do in order to enjoy a life that others can’t – we work long hours, long past the “normal” business hours that employees work, we can’t remember the last time we had more than six hours of sleep in a night and our families plot a rescue mission to get us out of the office at a decent time for special occasions.
“Test all things; hold fast to what is good.”
1 Thessalonians 5:21
The great Os Hillman has a website, and a book, called Today God Is First (TGIF)
This is a reframing of the old cliche, TGIF, which for most of the world means “thank God it’s Friday”.
The point Os is trying to make, I believe, is that we need a shift in the way we think about work and our life.
If your perspective on life is: you hate what you do 40-60 hours per week, and you are only thanking God when Friday comes around, so you can step out of that hellish workplace that you are forced to occupy…