Who Told You?

“You can't have a successful business and a balanced life. You have to choose.”

“You're not pretty enough.”

“Life is not Disneyland. You can't have fun all the time.”

“You're not smart enough.”

“Work is not supposed to be fun.”

“You're too sick.”

“You're just a sinner in the hands of an angry God.”

“The only way to make a fortune is by working hard.”

“You're too young.”

“Sometimes bad things happen and you just can't find any good in it. It doesn't mean anything. It is what it is.”

“God doesn't want you to be rich.”

“You're too old.”

“You can't trust anyone.”

“You're ugly.”

“You're fat.”

“You're lazy.”

“Your best days are behind you.”

…and feel free insert your go-to limiting belief here, if I've missed it.

Question: who told you this junk?


Who told you?

And why are you still listening to them?

Ray Edwards is a world-renowned copywriter and communications strategist, writing for some of the most powerful voices in leadership and business including New York Times bestselling authors Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen (Chicken Soup for the Soul) and Tony Robbins. Ray is a sought-after speaker and author, hosts a popular weekly podcast, and blogs at RayEdwards.com.

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  • Christy Largent

    The heartbreaking truth is that most of us, at one time or another, have told OURSELVES those lies. Our “inner bully” was in full force. So thankful the negative talk cycle can be stopped, our minds renewed and dreams lived out in full. Your work helps me keep it positive! Keep up the great work.

  • I’m writing a post on this very subject right now Ray (you beat me to the punch). I just got back from visiting my family for the holidays. Of course there were the usual two family members who just love to needle me about “what I’m doing online” They were critical and judgemental. One even told me I’m looking for the ‘easy way’ out. I don’t even want to mention the incessant ‘zingers’ thrown at me while everyone was listening at the family gatherings. I don’t know the psychology behind this -maybe they’re trying to prop themselves up by diminishing me – I don’t know. But my wife and I made a decision this year NOT to let any of these ‘dream-stealer’s’ lesson our enthusiasm. In fact, I’m even more determined than I ever was to succeed! As my wife said – ‘Who do they think they are?? Why do they think they have any business whatsoever sticking there nose in what we are doing? (My wife is tough!). And of course she is spot-on. Thanks for the article Ray. Who the heck told us we can’t follow our dreams?

  • Ray McArthur

    Divide and Conquer simple yet very effective.we have to do better NOW !

  • Micki

    I used to be told I was “cute, but not pretty”. My husband has helped me realize how funny that actually sounds!